Mrs. May: This BOLI’s Wedding Went Up in Smoke…In the Best Way Possible

In Brides of Long Island’s Monthly “Mrs.” series, we profile some of our members’ unforgettable weddings. This month, we spoke with Ashley about how a very unique bar at their wedding impressed guests of all ages.

Despite the stress of wedding planning, buying a house, AND doing home renovations three months before their wedding day, Ashley and Tim took it all in stride as they celebrated the best day of their lives.

Love at First (In-Person) Sight

Ashley and Tim will be the first to joke about not feeling any vibes when a mutual friend tried to set them up. A few months later however, everything changed. “My friend showed us pictures of each other, and we told her we weren’t interested,” Ashley laughs. “But once we met in person, we fell for each other.”

Three years later in 2021, Tim proposed at Ashley’s best friend’s lake house in front of their friends and family. They waited a few months, though, before they started wedding planning. “We took a few months to decide if we wanted a big or small wedding,” Ashley explains. That December, they started to look at venues – but they only made it to one, as they fell in love with The Vineyards at Aquebogue, a BOLI preferred vendor. “We booked on the spot for our March 24, 2023 wedding.”

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Booking Her Favorites

Ashley knew early on that she wanted to book Ashley Glazer for her hair. “As a bridesmaid in several weddings, I’ve always felt my hair never came out like I wanted it to,” Ashley says. “For my wedding day, I had seen Ashley’s style and I knew she’d nail it.” And she did not disappoint.

After her hair was booked, Ashley focused on photography. “I looked at five different photographers and searched the BOLI page for reviews.” Ultimately, Ashley and Tim booked with Natalie Marie Photography. “Her style was exactly what we were looking for in photos for our wedding day. And she was so fantastic that day – she worked in tandem with my wedding coordinator to make sure everything ran smoothly. I loved working with her,” Ashley says.

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A Unique Bar

When it came to figuring out something that would “wow” their guests, Ashley and Tim were stumped. Then, they were struck with an idea: a weed bar during the reception. “We were actually the first couple at the venue to offer pre-rolled joints to our guests. And everyone loved it!” In fact, Ashley says she was surprised at how popular it was with all of her guests – not just the younger crowd. “My grandma actually put a couple in her purse on the way out.”

Aside from the fun party, Ashley and Tim enjoyed saying their vows privately on the bridal suite balcony. “It was such a great moment between the two of us, however, we didn’t realize everyone could see us from down below.” She found it funny when everyone started cheering, but wouldn’t trade that moment with Tim for anything. “We honestly forgot they were there because we were just focused on each other, which was really nice.”

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The Perfect Service

Ashley and Tim were very impressed with how great the service was at The Vineyards. From the planning process to the wedding day itself, they were accommodating with any and all requests the couple had. “They answered all my questions, which put my mind at ease as we got closer to our wedding,” Ashley says.

After the wedding, Ashley says her videographer Wildnettle Films really went above and beyond. When they looked at the first draft of their wedding video, they realized Tim’s grandparents were missing. When Ashley reached out for edits, she says that Wildnettle Films didn’t hesitate and made the changes with no issue. “I feel bad, sometimes, asking for things, but I’m so happy I did, because we love the way it came out.”

Speaking up and doing what you want are pieces of advice Ashley wants other brides to heed. “Between our new home renovations and wedding planning, it was very stressful for me,” Ashley says. “I relied on BOLI a lot because [seeing] other brides with similar challenges really helped me.” And at the end of the day, she says it was all worth it. “As long as you focus on the two of you, everything else falls into place.”

Vendors:
Venue: Vineyards at Aquebogue, a BOLI preferred vendor
Photographer: Natalie Marie Photography
Videography: Wildnettle Films
DJ: Genesis Events, a BOLI preferred vendor
Florist: Country Village Florist
Hair: Ashley Glazer
Makeup: Makeup By Mariel
Invitations: Truly Engaging
Dress: Max Bridal, a BOLI preferred vendor
Bridesmaid Dresses: Azazie
Cake: Audrey’s in Sayville
Tuxedos: The Black Tux

Beautiful grounds, elegant spaces, and attentive staff await you at Pine Hollow Club, where your wedding will be the sole event. 

Imagine blooming gardens and greenery, meticulously-maintained Gold Coast-era architecture, and opulent event spaces that exude class and sophistication. Now imagine getting to experience these luxuries all to yourself.

BOLI Preferred Vendor Pine Hollow Club has a reputation for excellence — not only in their impeccable scenery, but in their world-class staff that treats every couple like members of their own family. 

But perhaps one of the best aspects of your wedding at Pine Hollow Club is the fact that you can experience this excellence with a touch of intimacy and privacy, because your wedding will be the only event taking place. 

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A picture-perfect Gold Coast mansion

Your pictures will carry the memory of your wedding for years to come, and Pine Hollow Club provides the perfect backdrop for incredible photos. “The grounds are beautiful, so it’s great for pictures,” says Heidi Stanya, Director of Member Experience. “Whether you want golf course pictures, pictures by the pool, by the courts, in the wooded areas — there are a lot of different locations.”

Joe Scalice, Pine Hollow Club’s Director of Operations, agreed. “There are so many photo opportunities,” he said. “There are a lot of areas for potential outdoor cocktail hours and ceremonies, and with some beautiful indoor spaces as well. This was the Vanderbilts’ North Shore estate, so we have this incredible historic mansion with elegantly appointed rooms. And, of course, a staircase that is absolutely stunning.”

A team of talented and dedicated professionals

Paired with these awe-inspiring surroundings is Pine Hollow Club’s team of experienced professionals, dedicated to bringing your wedding visions to life. “Our staff is what really sets us apart,” Heidi explained. “Everyone wants the couple and their families to have the best days of their lives. We’re all very personable so our couples always feel comfortable, and I think most of our brides and grooms feel like they get extra special service by coming here.” 

“There’s a lot of heart and soul here, and I’m happy to be a part of the team for that reason,” Joe continued. “We all have a passion for what we do. We’re here for our couples’ and their families’ experiences, and we all care about executing a wedding that will be memorable. It’s all about them and what they want.”

An exclusive wedding experience

Pine Hollow Club’s one-event-at-a-time policy means your wedding will be the center of attention. “There is a lot of opportunity to make the space your own, or enjoy it as it is,” Joe detailed. “What’s great about the property is, although many of the spaces have such a beautiful ‘Old World’ feel with some ‘New World’ furnishings and appointments to the structure, a lot of the ballroom and cocktail hour spaces can be creatively redesigned. I’ve seen our dining room which has this classic beauty transformed into something completely different and otherworldly.”

Joe’s advice for brides-to-be is to have an idea of what your ideal day looks like. “When you first come in, let’s talk in broad strokes of how you want your wedding to feel. Don’t get caught up in tiny details because that can skew the decision making process. Do we have the menu you want? The grounds you want? Because from there, we can take the space and transform it into what you envision. That’s the beauty of being the only event at a particular time — you’re not sharing the space with another party, so we can dedicate the spaces to you and your vision.”

• MORE: Pine Hollow Club Serves Delectable Fare on Your Wedding Day

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Book a tour for these must-see Long Island wedding venues.

You’re just engaged, and you have no idea where to start! There are hundreds of venues across the Island – everything from small restaurants to venues with a water view to actual castles. The possibilities are endless. Well, BOLI is here to help!

But why not book tours at some of Long Island’s great wedding venues? Here are 44 great Long Island wedding venues that are not only preferred venues of the BOLI family, but are bound to have something to make one of the most important days of your life the best day ever!

Westbury Manor
Westbury
Westbury Manor’s lush landscape is the perfect backdrop for your wedding. Set upon 5 acres, this mansion has several ballrooms and cocktail rooms to fit up to 300 guests.

The Crescent Beach Club
Bayville
Imagine saying “I do” at sunset on a white sand beach, surrounded by palm trees with the blue water behind you. Well, you don’t have to travel off Long Island to do it! The Crescent Beach Club is on the beautiful Long Island Sound that gives couples a plethora of choices when it comes to photos and beyond. Its cocktail hour features steel pan drums, and its ballroom features floor-to-ceiling windows for breathtaking views of the beach and water at any time of day or night. And you can keep the party going on the beach after the reception with tiki torches and fire pits. The beach club’s capacity is 425.

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Sunset Harbour
East Patchogue
Located in its own marina, tucked away along the Great South Bay, Sunset Harbour has been family owned and operated for the past 25 years. The marina offers stunning views of the water and makes for great sunset photos. It can accommodate up to 250 guests.

Swan Lake Caterers
Manorville
This recently renovated boutique-style venue is located on the greens of Swan Lake Golf Course. It features a rustic indoor look with wine barrels, barn doors and lanterns.

The Meadow Club
Port Jefferson Station
This recently renovated property boasts crystal chandeliers and perfectly manicured gardens. The Meadow Club hosts one wedding at a time, and offers various packages that fit every budget and wedding party size!

The Inn at New Hyde Park
New Hyde Park
This Long Island landmark was established in 1938. Its staff of event planners, management and culinary artists have a combined 200 years experience! The Inn can accommodate from 10-500 of your guests.

The Old Field Club
East Setauket
The Old Field Club offers waterfront views along the north shore with rustic yet elegant charm. On the smaller side, this intimate venue can accommodate up to 180 guests.

The Lannin
East Meadow
This fully renovated venue is in the heart of Long Island, located inside Eisenhower Park golf course. If you’re looking to customize the luxury wedding of your dreams, The Lannin is the perfect place for you. From its modern classic look to its award-winning chef and lush scenery, The Lannin will wow your guests – they’ll talk about your wedding for years to come!

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The Piermont
Babylon
Nestled on the Great South Bay, this waterfront venue features floor-to-ceiling windows for your guests to enjoy beautiful sunsets and amazing water views. Couples can choose between indoor or outdoor ceremonies. The menus feature locally sourced products and American classics.

Fox Hollow
Woodbury
This state-of-the-art venue is located on Long Island’s Gold Coast, and gives couples plenty of options, including three different rooms to accommodate any size wedding party from 50-285 guests! It has several options for an on-site ceremony, including an outdoor garden. And it has an on-site hotel for couples to turn a wedding day into a wedding weekend! A truly full-service venue, Fox Hollow is sure to have something for every bride.

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Watermill
Smithtown
Located in the heart of Suffolk County, this hidden gem features a sprawling estate, manicured landscapes, winding pathways and historic architecture. Your wedding will have old-world charm with luxurious modern comforts. It can accommodate up to 350 guests.

Insignia
Smithtown
This steakhouse-turned wedding venue can accommodate up to 300 guests. It offers indoor and outdoor spaces for a ceremony. Insignia combines the feel of a Hamptons-style mansion with an upscale Manhattan restaurant for a unique wedding. Menus range from prime-age steaks to fresh seafood and sushi.

Opus Steakhouse
Jericho
This re-imagined north shore mansion can be yours for your wedding day! It offers dramatic spaces offering endless views of lush gardens, a suspended wine loft and an open kitchen. To say Opus is unique is an understatement, and it’s sure to wow your up to 225 guests.

360 East at Montauk Downs
Montauk
Head to The End to celebrate your wedding day in the charm of a beach town with an elegant setting. Wow your guests, which can be up to 200, with views of Montauk. As a bonus, say your vows with the Montauk Lighthouse as your backdrop!

Heritage Club at Bethpage
Bethpage
The Heritage Club at Bethpage combines the richness of Long Island’s Heritage with the finest service and cuisine. Say your vows in a room with a grand chandelier on beautiful wooden floors, or outside in a charming gazebo with the Bethpage Black course as your backdrop. The ballroom offers floor to ceiling windows overlooking 1,500 acres of rolling greens. It can accommodate up to 500 guests.

The Mansion at Oyster Bay
Woodbury
Have your wedding with an authentic Gatsby era flare with modern accents and amenities. Your breath will be taken away by just the foyer alone with a roaring fireplace amid marble floors and a grand staircase. The ballroom features an outdoor patio allowing for an indoor/outdoor cocktail hour. It can accommodate up to 500 guests.

The Vineyards at Aquebogue
Aquebogue
The Vineyards has a rustic, farmhouse feel with enchanting gardens and, obviously, authentic vineyards. With a guest capacity of 300, this venue can host your ceremony, inside or outside, and reception. The cocktail hour can include a farm-to-table station with bison and flounder sliders, North Fork oyster chowder, salads and so much more. It offers a variety of enhancement packages, as well as all-inclusive packages for Saturday or Sunday day weddings.

Chateau at Coindre Hall
Huntington
With the Huntington Harbor as a backdrop, this mansion is both timeless and historic. Couples can exchange vows in the garden or the ballroom. And the photo opportunities are endless with a courtyard with vine-covered columns, a spiral staircase and six fireplaces. Coindre Hall can hold up to 200 guests for a night full of historic and elegant memories.

Essex Club
Brentwood
This quaint country club is set among 50 acres of rolling greens and picturesque perennials. Have your ceremony at the outside gazebo or in front of a roaring fireplace inside. And then dance the night away with up to 250 guests in the grand ballroom.

Stonebridge Country Club
Smithtown
This modern-day country club overlooks a lush, green golf course and woodlands, offering plenty of photo opportunities. Stonebridge can accommodate up to 350 guests. It has an outdoor gazebo for ceremonies, and a couple options for cocktail hour.

Bourne Mansion
Oakdale
This historic Vanderbilt Museum is located on the Great South Bay with breathtaking views inside and out. The mansion features 40-foot vaulted ceilings, an elegant wooden staircase and a grand ballroom. It can hold up to 300 of your guests.

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Estate at Three Village Inn
Stony Brook
Located in the heart of the historic town and overlooking Stony Brook Harbor, the Estate at Three Village Inn is a unique backdrop for your wedding day. Make it a full wedding weekend, with your rehearsal dinner at their Mirabelle restaurant, stay overnight in their cozy rooms or suites, and then say your vows in the garden before enjoying your reception in their ballroom, able to fit up to 250 guests.

Mansion at Timber Point
Great River
The Mansion at Timber Point is nestled along the Great South Bay, offering views of Fire Island and the rolling greens of a golf course. Inside the historic mansion offers classic country décor with a modern twist for you and your up to 250 guests.

The Mansion at West Sayville
West Sayville
The Mansion at West Sayville offers classic splendor with rustic beach charm. It features views of the Great South Bay, Fire Island and the Maritime Museum. The grand ballroom features French doors to separate the dance floor from the dining room. A perfect setting for up to 220 guests.

Pavilion at Sunken Meadow
Kings Park
The Pavilion at Sunken Meadow is the premier location for the perfect beach wedding. It offers stretches of sand, gentle bay breezes and beautiful sunset views. It can accommodate up to 300 guests.

View
Oakdale
View offers a refined yet relaxing setting with beautiful waterfront views and award-winning food. Host your intimate wedding with up to 180 guests at the View for a customized menu and breathtaking landscapes.

East Wind Long Island
Wading River
East Wind features 26 acres on the Island’s North Shore giving brides plenty of opportunities for amazingly beautiful photos. Not only does it give you several options for your wedding – everything from an intimate garden affair to a stately ballroom – it also is home to a hotel, with several restaurants, shops and a full-service spa and salon. These amenities allow brides tons of options to get ready, a rehearsal dinner or just a day of relaxation before the big day!

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The Barn at Old Bethpage Restoration
Old Bethpage
The Barn offers a rustic yet elegant venue for your wedding, with over 8,000-square-feet of indoor and outdoor event space. It fits 300 guests, and features high ceilings with exposed wooden beams. Couples can choose to have an on-site ceremony overlooking the gardens or inside the ballroom. The country fields and authentic farmhouse are sure to leave your guests impressed.

Giorgio’s Baiting Hollow
Wading River
Every wedding at Giorgio’s is personally overseen by the owners to make sure your perfect day goes smoothly. This venue is unique in its indoor/outdoor setting, with scenic views of a beautiful, rolling golf course. And who wouldn’t love a nine-station cocktail hour and a four-course entrée dinner. Giorgio’s fits up to 300 guests.

Atlantis Banquets & Events
Riverhead
When you hear Atlantis, you probably think of the aquarium, but why not get married there? From a small gathering of 20 guests to up to 650, you get to choose from up to nine different locations around the property to celebrate your big day. And don’t forget to inquire about taking photos with the animals!

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Swan Club on the Harbor
Roslyn
Located on the harbor, Swan Club on the Harbor offers breathtaking views and picturesque backdrops. It is located on an estate that dates back to the 1600s and features a mansion constructed by the co-founder of Con Edison. Purchased in 2018 by restaurateur brothers they restored it to its Gold Coast perfection. It can hold up to 350 guests.

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The Mansion at Woodside Club
Muttontown
This one-of-a-kind mansion property is sure to be the perfect venue to host the best day of your life. The Mansion at Woodside Club features indoor and outdoor options for your ceremony as well as an open-plan ballroom.

Pine Hollow Club
East Norwich
This private club offers a bit of old and new to make your wedding day perfect. It features historic architecture with modern finesse. Pine Hollow Club features multiple ballrooms and plenty of outdoor gardens to make your day unforgettable.

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Bellport Country Club
Bellport
This one-wedding venue is located in the village of Bellport and offers rolling views of the championship golf course and Great South Bay. It features an indoor-outdoor cocktail hour, and a beautiful private garden for the perfect ceremony. Customize your dream wedding at Bellport Country Club.

Villa Lombardi’s
Holbrook
For more than four decades, the Lombardi family has set the standard of Long Island hospitality. Known for its delicious Neapolitan Italian Cuisine, the Lombardis bring timeless tradition to your wedding day.

Bayview on the Water
Freeport
Located on the beautiful Nautical Mile, Bayview on the Water offers three levels of panoramic open bay views. This brand new venue can accommodate up to 300 guests for formal affairs, and up to 400 for cocktail receptions.

One10
Melville
This restaurant space is designed in a modern, chic style, with plenty of natural light and warm wooden flooring. In addition to hosting wedding celebrations, it also operates as an Italian steakhouse.

Blackstone Steakhouse 
Melville
The restaurant space offers a modern, chic style, with plenty of natural light and warm wooden flooring. While it also operates as an Italian steakhouse, brides get priority with a one-wedding-a-day policy. You’ll be the star on your big day!

Rare650
Syosset
Rare, indeed. This modern restaurant offers a unique dining experience with several event spaces to choose from for your wedding. From the main dining area with a floor-to-ceiling wine room to the bright and airy conservatory, Rare650 is the perfect venue to customize your perfect wedding day.

Bijou
Melville
The newest member of Anthony Scotto Restaurants, Bijou features private banquet rooms or the entire restaurant, which can be yours exclusively for the day.

Blackstone Steakhouse 
Melville
Just like every couple, every wedding at Blackstone is refreshingly unique and special. Offering elegant, modern décor with quarried stone, rich natural wood and warmly glowing chandeliers and fireplaces, Blackstone Steakhouse sets the mood for a memorable wedding day.

The Bayview House at Captain Bill’s 
Bay Shore
The Bayview House is nestled off the South Shore and offers stunning views of the Great South Bay. It features shimmering chandeliers, a second floor bridal suite with a balcony overlooking the grand ballroom, and cathedral windows showcasing panoramic water views. From intimate affairs to grand galas, the Bayview House is ready to host your special day.

Breeze Hill Farm 
Peconic
Offering a 75-acre orchard and 8,500 square feet of its main lodge home, Breeze Hill Farm is the perfect venue for orchard and beach weddings.

Soundview Caterers
Bayville
Soundview Caterers maintain their legacy of extraordinary service and culinary excellence on your wedding day. Nestled along the “Gold Coast” of Long Island’s North Shore, it features spectacular views of the Long Island Sound and neighboring coastline.

Riviera Waterfront Mansion
Massapequa
This venue sits right on the water, so your guests can watch you say your vows and sip cocktails right along the water. From its stunning ballroom to its expansive cocktail hour space outside, The Riviera Waterfront Mansion is ready to plan your special day.

Wherever you choose to have your wedding, just know that you’ll be in great hands!

The big day has finally arrived! Make the start of it special with these 7 ideas for your wedding morning

All the planning and prep has lead you to this moment — your wedding day! Now all that’s left to do is get ready, walk down the aisle, and have the best celebration ever. 

The “getting ready” part of your day should be fun, too! Here are 7 ideas for your wedding morning, sure to get your whole crew pumped for the amazing day ahead.

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1. Nosh from a grazing table

You’ve got a long day ahead, so make sure you grab a good breakfast! A grazing table with fresh fruit, meats, and cheeses will give you energy and keep you satiated until cocktail hour. Plus, the artistry and detail of your table will make for some great first pictures. BOLI Preferred Vendor Charcuterie Babe creates custom tables and boards that are as beautiful as they are delicious.

2. Jam to an epic playlist

Poll your bridal party on their favorite tunes and make the ultimate wedding day playlist. Whether you’re going for a 90’s hip hop vibe or a collection of boy band greatest hits, these songs will get your girls up and dancing (once they’re done with their makeup, that is).

3. Hand out bridal party gifts

Your bridal party has been by your side through thick and thin. Take some time before everyone walks the aisle to show your appreciation! It’ll be just like Christmas morning, with more hairspray.

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4.  Have a “first look” with your bridal party

A “first look” with your fiancé will be a beautiful moment, but we think your bridal party deserves a special surprise too! Present your bridal glam to your besties in grand fashion — and get some amazing pictures in the process!

5. Plan a game night…err, morning

Truth is, there will probably be a bit of downtime the morning of your wedding. Fill the minutes with a some fun! Tell your bridesmaids to bring their favorite board games, a deck of cards, or interactive app-based games. 

6. Clear your mind

You never miss your weekly Yoga class, why would you let a little thing like your wedding stop you? (Just kidding 😂 ). In all seriousness, if Yoga or light exercise does wonders for your mood, it might be possible to fit a mini-session into your morning. Drag your girls out of bed and have them join you in the hotel conference room. 

7. Create some content

Remember that downtime we mentioned? You can also use it to make some killer content! Try out the latest TikTok trend or start editing an epic wedding day reel. Don’t want to create the content on your own? Hire a pro instead! BOLI Preferred Vendors Empire Content Creation, Slick Creations, or Here Comes the Content are perfect for the job. 

 

The Veranda at East Wind Long Island flaunts a sleek, super luxe, and ultra-modern contemporary aesthetic.

Imagine walking into a space that exudes sophistication. The newly renovated Veranda at BOLI preferred vendor East Wind Long Island seamlessly blends classic elegance with modern luxury, creating a space that’s both timeless and on-trend.

“We’re all about keeping our finger on the pulse of what couples want for their big day,” says Director of Marketing Charlotte Coté. “And lately, we discovered there’s an overwhelming appeal for floral décor and modern design.”

The architectural detail in the ceiling where romance meets modern innovation features a coffered design adorned with lighted wisteria flowers. The pristine marble floor reflects the soft glow of the lighting above, creating a sophisticated ambience.

MORE: With Five Different Spaces, Shoppes and More, East Wind Long Island Offers Brides Plenty of Options 

The new bar features eye-catching silver diamond 3D panels adding depth and dimension, while an elevated granite countertop bar adds a touch of opulence to the space. If you’re looking for an even more personalized touch, you have the ability to customize the lighting at the bar, ceiling, and windows. Imagine soft romantic lighting for a fairytale wedding or pops of vibrant color for a more playful celebration.

The Veranda at East Wind Long Island retains its elegance with several features. The impressive cocktail hour overlooks the Inn’s grand staircase and Schonbek crystal chandelier, while the new silver Chiavari chairs amplify the modern charm.

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The venue offers a unique experience with a private Tuscan Balcony accessible from the reception room. This secluded spot is perfect for a breath of fresh air or capturing picturesque moments with breathtaking views – perhaps golden hour photos overlooking manicured lawns or romantic nighttime shots under a starlit sky.

“Now, our Veranda Ballroom is blooming with a fresh look! Inspired by your love for modern design and floral elegance, we’ve transformed the space,” says Coté. “It now features sleek lines and a stunning floral ceiling, it’s the perfect venue for your modern wedding. Come see it for yourself!”
The Veranda is a dream wedding venue for couples seeking a luxurious and modern space infused with timeless elegance. The venue’s ability to transform itself through customizable lighting and its blend of modern amenities with classic design elements create a truly unique and unforgettable setting for a special day.

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No matter the relationship with your mother or mother-in-law, it’s important to manage expectations.

It’s finally time! You get to go wedding dress shopping. You’ll likely have some idea of the style you’re looking for and, of course, your besties will probably want to come with you. Your mother and/or mother-in-law may also be interested in helping you choose the perfect gown, but how do you dress shop with your mother or mother-in-law?

No matter your relationship, here’s how to dress shop with your mother or mother-in-law.

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Manage Expectations

Before you head out to a bridal salon, figure out what you’re looking for as far as style, price point, color, and designer goes. Communicate with your mother or mother-in-law ahead of time to loop them in — tell them what your ideal gown looks like, and the kinds of dresses that catch your eye. This will give them an idea of your preferences, so they’ll know what to expect as they “ooh and ahh” over the dresses you model! This could also help them narrow their focus, so they don’t suggest different styles or gowns you’re not interested in.

Keep an Open Mind

Just as you want to manage their expectations, it’s also important to keep an open mind for yourself. We’re not saying to try everything your mother or mother-in-law suggests, but it might not hurt to try something they think would look great on you. They usually have your best interest in mind. And if you hate it, there’s nothing wrong with saying so!

Know Their Personalities

At this point in your life, you know both your mother and mother-in-law’s personalities. Take this into consideration as you dress shop. If you think their personalities will clash, maybe take separate shopping trips. If everyone gets along, make it a group outing. Either way, just remember the experience is all about you, so make sure you’re happy.

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Set Boundaries

This goes along with managing expectations. Set those boundaries early. If you don’t want them to take photos, that’s fine. But let them know, as they will probably be eager to not only take those photos, but share them with their friends.

It’s also important to let them know that you will keep their suggestions in mind, but ultimately, your dress is your decision. If you set those boundaries before you head out, it will make the dress shopping experience fun for everyone.

Put You First

The dress shopping experience should be about you and only you. Yes, it’s great that your mother or mother-in-law wants to share that experience with you, but make sure that you put yourself first. Schedule your shopping trips at times that are convenient for you, choose the salons that you want to visit, and be the main point person for your bridal consultant. You are the one getting married, and you are the one wearing the dress, so you (and only you!) are in charge of the experience.

MORE: What you feel when you find THE dress 

And remember — there is nothing that says you HAVE to dress shop with your mother or mother-in-law. If you prefer to shop with only your besties in tow, consider involving your mother or mother-in-law in another special wedding activity. Just as with everything else planning related, it’s your wedding and you can do what you want.

BOLI Diamond Award Winner NY Officiants blends professionalism, personalization, and pure joy into your wedding day

Your wedding ceremony is the symbolic beginning of your lives as a married couple, and the moment when all of your dreaming, planning, and preparation will be fully realized. 

But your ceremony is also important because it sets the tone for the rest of your day, creating a mood and atmosphere that will translate into your cocktail hour, reception, and even your after-party. 

This is a fact that Christopher Muhlhauser, owner of BOLI Preferred Vendor and 2024 Diamond Award recipient NY Officiants, understands completely. After entering the wedding industry in his teens, he’s learned what it takes to create joyful and memorable ceremonies. And he’s built a team of elite professionals that bring all of those beautiful elements to life.

• MORE: 14 Questions to Ask When Hiring a Wedding Officiant

“I’ve known the wedding industry my whole life.” – NY Officiants

For Christopher, an early job ended up inspiring a lifelong career. “I’ve been in the wedding industry since I was sixteen years old,” he remembered. “I used to move equipment for all the big wedding DJs. Then in my mid-to-late twenties, I opened up my own wedding entertainment company and now my partner runs that fully – TLC Entertainment, which is also a Brides of Long Island Preferred Vendor.”

He eventually transitioned into officiating, making a full-time switch during the Covid-19 pandemic. “I started officiating for couples here and there. Then when everything shut down, I opened up NY Officiants. So I’ve known the wedding industry my whole life.”

“Everything that we do is personalized.” – NY Officiants

When you book with NY Officiants, you’ll never get a “cookie cutter” ceremony. “Everything that we do is personalized,” Christopher described. “That’s why we take the time to speak to each couple – we create the custom ceremony that they envision. It’s all based on what the couple wants.”

How does the booking process work? “We send a simple link to a form that our couples fill out. Once they submit that form, we have a thorough conference call to go over all the details, from start to finish,” he explained. “Couples can go on our Instagram and website and see everything that we’re mentioning on the call. We also communicate the importance of hiring a professional wedding officiant.”

And speaking of professional wedding officiants, NY Officiants has a team full of passionate individuals ready to preside over your wedding – no matter what your background or preferences happen to be. “We have bilingual officiants, rabbis, women officiants, interfaith officiants – NY Officiants is a whole company of varied, full-time officiants that cater to you.”

NY Officiants can also provide additional wedding day services. “We offer professional photography, videography, and we just added ceremony content creation as well,” Christopher said. 

“Your ceremony is the first part of your wedding day, and you want it to end on a high note.” – NY Officiants

While many couples may think that having friends or family officiate their nuptials will result in a more personal experience, Christopher believes that nothing could be further from the truth. “You want to make sure that you have a professional that is going to be able to guide the ceremony along in a proper time frame,” he stressed. “A lot of couples think that a friend or family member knows them best and can tell the best story, but we can do that. We will know you after working with you. So you’re getting the best of both worlds – we’re able to tell your story but also do it in a professional way.”

He also highlighted the importance of keeping your ceremony upbeat. “It’s important to get that ‘lighthearted’ segment because it’s a game changer. Your ceremony is the first part of your wedding day, and you want it to end on a high note. The energy from your ceremony flows into the rest of your day.”

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“It was definitely a cool experience.” – NY Officiants

When asked about his favorite wedding memories, two very special moments came to mind. “I married a couple in their late 80’s,” he recalled. “They were high school sweethearts and during World War II, he got drafted and went into the army. They lost touch and each started their own lives, getting married and having kids, and then eventually both of their spouses passed. They linked up through mutual acquaintances, and realized that they always felt like they should have gotten married. So I married them and it was so sweet, because they were so in love.”

He also reminisced about another unique event. “I had a couple that wanted to get married in the middle of the Adirondack Mountains, it was a 10-hour hike to get to this lake they call ‘Lake Colden.’ My wife and I, a few photographers and the couple, hiked into the mountains and camped for two nights. I married them in this picturesque, beautiful setting. There were no cell phones, no nothing, but it was definitely a cool experience.” 

“If you sleep on it, you’re not going to get what you want.” – NY Officiants

Christopher had some great advice for brides-to-be planning their Long Island weddings. “Pricing should be a concern, but more importantly, you should want to know more about the value,” he recommended. “Ask pertinent questions like ‘what sets you apart from other officiants?’ instead of ‘what is your pricing?’ I’m very transparent about doing business in the open, so I tell our couples they can read all of our 253 five-star reviews right on our website.”

He also suggested booking sought-after vendors as soon as you can. “Don’t wait too long to hire the industry professional you want. If you sleep on it, you’re not going to get what you want because they will most likely be booked already. So if you reach out and your vendor is available, try to make a jump on it.”

 

In Brides of Long Island’s Monthly “Mrs.” series, we profile some of our members’ unforgettable weddings. This month, we spoke with Diana about how she incorporated her love of Harry Potter, and Ralph’s Italian Ices, into her wedding day.

After a long engagement, Diana and Rob had their perfect wedding in September 2023. And Diana has BOLI Preferred Vendor Sand and Tee Events to thank for making her wedding dreams come true.

A Five-Year Engagement

Diana and Rob met through mutual friends during a fundraiser for her best friend’s sister, who passed away from cancer. Five years later, Rob proposed in 2017 in Astoria Park. “He had an arch set up with flowers and candles,” says Diana. “And our friends were waiting behind trees to take pictures of us.”

Since they were in the process of buying a house, Diana and Rob waited a few years to start wedding planning. And in that time, COVID hit. Once things settled down, they started to look at venues and fell in love with Larkfield for their Sept. 23, 2023 wedding. “We loved all the vibes that Larkfield had – from their fantastic cocktail hour to the rustic Italian feel, it was a no brainer for us,” Diana says.

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A Classy Harry Potter Affair

Once Larkfield was booked, Diana says all of the other vendors fell into place, including their photographer and videographer Heartfelt Studio, a BOLI preferred vendor. She says they didn’t have any issues booking the vendors they loved, and that using Tina from Sand and Tee Events was the best thing they did for their wedding. “I love to read, and I love Harry Potter, so I had a vision, but I wasn’t sure how to accomplish it,” explains Diana. “But Tina took my vision and ran with it. She added subtle touches throughout the night that really captured myself and Rob, and it was perfect.” Some of those personal touches? A dais backdrop with hanging Harry Potter candles in the background, Harry Potter page table numbers and flowers around an arch with book pages entwined with the flowers. “And for our mirror welcome sign, Tina added suitcases around it because Rob and I love to travel.”

A Little DIY

An idea on TikTok turned into one of the standout moments of Diana’s wedding night – she saw a video about using wooden bookshelves for seating charts, with books that feature guests’ names and table numbers. “Rob is very handy and I have a Cricut, so I put us up to the challenge!” Rob built the three-shelf wooden bookshelf, while she made the books from Styrofoam and cardstock. “I used my Cricut to make everyone’s name to put on the books’ bindings. I think I made about 150 books for the shelves, but everyone loved them, so it was worth all of the blood, sweat and tears,” she says.

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Ralph’s For the Win

Despite the rainy weather, Diana and Rob had the perfect wedding day. She says that Tina and her husband knocked it out of the park with the décor, and went above and beyond to help set up the bookshelf seating chart. She adds that Caroline from Heartfelt made them feel at ease and made the photos fun. “Sometimes it can be overwhelming with all of the picture taking, but Caroline made everything fun and upbeat,” says Diana. “And it was great because she is a Harry Potter fan too!”

The best pictures, though? “The ones we took at Ralph’s Italian Ices in Dix Hills!” says Diana. “Rob and I love Ralph’s, it’s always been a thing for us. So each time we drove to Larkfield for wedding planning, we wondered if we could stop there on our wedding day for photos.” And that’s exactly what they did. She says that Ralph’s staff was more than accommodating – especially in the rain. “We were able to take the photos outside and inside. They even gave us some ices and let us go behind the counter. It was such a great moment for Rob and I. We had so much fun – and the photos came out great!”

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Staying True To Yourselves

All of the personal touches were so important to Diana and Rob, and she encourages other brides to stay true to themselves and their future spouses. “If you think something would be cool to do at your wedding, do it. Don’t worry about what everybody else says,” Diana mentions. “When I told people about taking photos at Ralph’s, they thought it was weird. But I’m so glad we went with our gut, because it was so meaningful for us.” And that’s what’s most important. Doing something you know is important to you as a couple – because in the end that’s who your wedding day is all about.

Vendors:
Venue: Larkfield
Photographer/Videography: Heartfelt Studio, a BOLI preferred vendor 
DJ: Larkfield Music Group
Singer: Sal Manzo
Florist: Flowers by Burton
Hair: Crystals Hair Creations
Makeup: Makeup by Mariel
Invitations: Zazzle
Dress: Max Bridal, a BOLI preferred vendor
Tuxedos: S&S Tuxedos
Decorator: Sand and Tee Events, a BOLI preferred vendor
Transportation: Sir Oliver

Live artist Brittany Branson of By Brittany Branson creates stunning works of art from your most heartfelt moments

Your wedding may only be one day, but that day can live on through your pictures, video, and special keepsakes. It can even live on as a unique and captivating painting, thanks to live artist and BOLI Preferred Vendor By Brittany Branson.

Understanding the importance of truly knowing her couples, Brittany strives to create pieces that reflect not only your big day, but also your personalities, your values, and your beautiful love story.

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“There’s room and opportunity here to strike out on my own.” – By Brittany Branson

For Brittany, the need for flexibility inspired a career change. “My husband is a pilot, and he could be gone for one or two weeks at a time,” she explained. “I was actively working in arts management, and I realized quickly that there were no guarantees he’d be off on a Saturday or Sunday. So I needed to find something where I could take the reins in terms of my time.’”

Remembering her 2015 wedding sparked an idea. “We had a live artist, and they were the only one I had ever come across. I figured that I have this arts management background anyway, and I’ve got some talent. There’s room and opportunity here to strike out on my own.”

“When my couples trust me to get creative, that makes me happy.” – By Brittany Branson

While your wedding photographer will be able to capture things exactly as they happen, Brittany offers something different. “I thrive on developing a relationship with my couples,” she described. “I listen to what’s most important to them. For example, if they’ve booked a venue because they adore the ceremony space, but are really looking forward to their first dance, I’ll merge the first dance into their ceremony space. When my couples trust me to get creative, that makes me happy.”

“I go into the wedding with a sense of who they are, and how much creative freedom they’re going to allow me to take,” she continued. “Most of my couples want the painting to focus on the two of them and then the details of the scene, and that I can complete by the end of the night. When they want additional people or pets added, that’s when I take it home and continue to work on it. I don’t want to rush things just for the sake of getting it done by the end of the wedding.”

“That’s where we get to have fun.” – By Brittany Branson

Yes, you read that correctly — Brittany can add people or pets into your painting, regardless of their attendance. “Pets are part of the immediate family, and they’re not always allowed to be present on the big day. They are always the number one request.” As an avid animal lover herself, Brittany donates a percentage of her proceeds to various animal welfare organizations.

She can even include loved ones who’ve passed away. “I do this very often. If couples want to add, let’s say, a male figure who would have worn the same tux as other men in the bridal party, I’ll ask for reference images and paint them in the same attire as if they were there. That’s really special.”

Knowing that sometimes the smallest details are the most meaningful, Brittany can bring in favorite decor items or floral touches as well. “If the couple is very excited about their cake or some of the ceremony florals that won’t be transferred to the reception, there’s absolutely no reason why I can’t add that into the painting. That’s where we get to have fun.”

“I’m never going to forget this.” — By Brittany Branson

When asked about her favorite wedding memory, an incredible moment came to Brittany’s mind. “The one I always come back to is a wedding I did at the River Cafe in Brooklyn,” she remembered. “My mom was an ICU nurse at Staten Island University Hospital, and when she was my age, the River Cafe was one of her special spots. So it was cool to have that full circle moment.”

But it was the end of the night that left the biggest impact. “My dad is a 9/11 survivor, and of course you get this incredible view of the World Trade Center from the River Cafe. We were all out on the dock space doing this sparkler exit and they started blasting Sinatra’s ‘New York, New York.’ I got very emotional and thought, ‘I’m never going to forget this.’”

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“Put some blinders up to the people who may not get it right away.” – By Brittany Branson

Brittany had some valuable words of advice for brides of Long Island. “What I think is so cool about live painting is that I have my process, but then I have colleagues who are very much realism painters,” she said. “There’s an artist for everyone, so don’t feel like you have to settle for a style that you don’t vibe with. Open yourself up budget-wise and trust-wise to the idea of bringing someone in that is going to create something you want to hang on the wall, not something you want to hide in storage.”

She also stressed the value in resisting outside influences. “If your heart is set on a live artist, and you’re so excited about the process, the fact that it’s entertaining for your guests, and it’s something that’s tangible you get to keep forever, put some blinders up to the people who may not get it right away. It happens a lot that I’ll have a bride who is so excited to hire me, but the groom doesn’t really get it. By the time they’ve hired me and they see the finished product, the groom becomes the number one fan.”

Yes, they can be more than just a flower girl or ring bearer! Here’s how to include your children in your wedding day

Your kids are the center of your world, so it’s natural to want them there for one of the most important days of your life (aside from their birthday, of course). While most of us wouldn’t consider weddings to be particularly “child-friendly,” there are still plenty of ways to make your children feel like they’re a big part of the big day. Whether you dress them up in their bridal party best, or pull them out onto the dance floor for their very own dance, here’s how to include your children in your wedding. 

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Include them in your bridal party

Tapping your son or daughter for the bridal party is one of the most common ways to include your children in your wedding.  If they’re younger, having them take on a flower girl or ring bearer role is the natural choice. But that’s not your only option! Selecting your child to be a junior bridesmaid or junior groomsmen — or even a junior maid of honor or best man — is a great way to incorporate them into the festivities. As a member of the bridal party, your kids can hang out with you before the ceremony, strike cute poses for pictures, and walk the aisle in style before your big entrance. 

Do a “first look” with them

Many brides decide to do a “first look” with their fiancés, why not do the same thing with your kids? First looks with your children can be extremely heartfelt, allowing both of you to create a beautiful core memory together. And can we just talk about those photo ops?! Be sure to have tissues on hand when you get your teasers back. 

Bring them on the dance floor

Your kids are great dancers — trust us, we know! Along with your first dance and parent dances, consider adding a dance with your children to the lineup. Choose a song that’s special to both of you, and let your little ones wow your guests with their moves. 

Let them make an entrance

Your bridesmaids, groomsmen and parents get entrances, so of course your children should get one too! Let your sons and daughters enter into your reception space all on their own, with a fun shout out from the DJ and maybe even their own accompanying music. 

 

Mention them in your vows

Not only is your fiancé is marrying you, they’re also starting a “bonus family” with your children. Mentioning your kids during the vows is not only a way to include them in the wedding, but it’s a very meaningful way to signify their continued importance in your new lives together. 

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Hire a vendor especially for them

Let’s be real — kids can get bored at weddings. And we totally understand why! Sitting around and watching a bunch of grown-ups sip cocktails and dance to music they’ve never heard can’t be all that interesting. Consider hiring a vendor specifically for their enjoyment — magicians, face painters, or character performers are all excellent options that will keep them engaged and entertained.  

Make them a part of your decor 

Ordering a custom cake topper? Pop your little ones into the silhouette! You can also use their pictures as a part of your table numbers, seating charts, or centerpieces. If they’ve got a few creative talents, ask them to make decor pieces that will liven up your reception space. DIY projects from your kids can add an extra special touch to your surroundings!